The question that makes me cringe every year — “So what’s your New Year’s resolution?” — annoys me so much more now that I have a kid. I’m a mother of a toddler, so some days, maybe most days, I’m just trying to keep my kid fed and un-injured while not completely neglecting my own basic needs.
Read on for my 10 reasons for NOT doing New Year’s resolutions this year:
1. I’m a parent of a toddler. That should speak for itself, but what this means is that in order to keep my sanity, I take life a day at a time. Sometimes an hour at a time. Keeping it simple has taken on a whole new meaning for me.
2. If I don’t set totally unrealistic and off-the-wall fitness expectations, like working out four to five times a week, I won’t fail, feel like crap, and quit completely. My fitness goals consist of doing a metabolic workout in my living room with dumbbells twice a week. It’s worked for the past year, so yay me! Twice a week for a year is a lot better than every single day for two weeks and then nothing for the rest of the year. Right?
3. My main goal in life right now is to not lose my “you know what” on my sassy, strong-willed, expressive, and persistent toddler. I’m also attempting to feed her regularly. Anything above and beyond that is gravy in my book.
4. My body is a different shape than it was pre-baby, and I’ve decided to focus more of my time accepting and loving my curves rather than hating them and getting rid of them. I just don’t want to spend the time, energy, and focus that I do have on changing my body. Fat loss is not important to me right now. Maybe that will change, and maybe it won’t.
5. I refuse to waste a minute thinking about, obsessing over, or rationalizing what I’m eating, whether it’s for fat loss or overall health. Some days I do better than others, and that’s OK.
6. “Diets” and total lifestyle overhauls don’t work long term. For anyone. Trust me.
7. I’ve worked in gyms and seen the New Year’s rush trickle back down to the regulars come mid-February. Every. Single. Year. It’s a marketing scam. I can be a better me on a Tuesday in April at 3 p.m. if I want. I probably won’t, because I’m usually hating life due to my child not napping and running around wired by that time.
8. Moderation isn’t sexy, but I try to adhere to a somewhat moderate lifestyle year round. I eat until I’m about 80% full. Except on days when my toddler is acting super special, I usually take a day off from moderation and eat cookies. I eat lots of cookies. And potato chips.
9. If I’m not getting quality sleep, I’ll be darned if I’m not gonna at least enjoy my food.
10. I’m a therapist, personal trainer, and nutrition coach. I can’t un-know the knowledge I have about how exercise and nutrition impacts my health and overall wellbeing. It haunts me every day. Some days I do great, some days I do so-so, and some days I fail miserably. The only thing I resolve to do on a regular basis is to remind myself of what MY values are around health, my body, and my family’s lifestyle. Not society’s, the media’s, or anyone else’s. When I focus on what matters to me and my family, all that outside noise about “losing weight,” “getting abs,” or “being better” quiets right down. And that’s how I like it.