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I’m Pregnant. Give Me Your Seat! (Said No One Ever)

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Olivia Wilde is no stranger to trending in social media. This week, Ms. Wilde lambasted fellow New York City subway riders for not offering a visibly pregnant woman (that would be her) a seat. She was probably tired and walked too many blocks before she headed underground to ride the train. She might’ve been crabby, and her ankles were probably blown up like puffer fish. She’d hoped to sit down. I don’t blame her. But if someone had offered their seat, would she have taken it? I might not have.

Olivia Wilde called herself a “GIANT preggo.” (Sidebar: I detest the term “preggo.” Tomato sauce has the copyright on that one). Therefore, I’m assuming she is in her third trimester. I have been in my third trimester twice. And I might not have taken an offered seat. Unless I was falling over from physical fatigue, I rarely asked for special dispensation while pregnant. To me, it just seemed like a way out. I am fine, and I am strong. I just happen to also be growing a human being. There is no need for special treatment.

I believe women are reluctant to ask for help. We want the world to perceive us as in control, capable, and competent. And we ARE. But it’s OK to ask for help when you need it. To the momma who has kids who have been absolute terrors all week — ask your mom, your friend, or pay your babysitter to entertain the wild rhinos for an hour or two so you can do what you want for 60 to 90 minutes of uninterrupted time. Hey, stay-at-home mom who has made 15 meals and 47 snacks this week? Order takeout tonight. Mommy-to-be who is feeling pains where you never knew you had muscles? Ask that guy if you can take his seat.

So for all of us, next time, Liv, just say to that person sitting comfy in the orange train seat, “Hey, do you mind if I sit?” My guess is he or she will stand up in a flash.

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3 Responses to I’m Pregnant. Give Me Your Seat! (Said No One Ever)

  1. Erica Jayne September 23, 2016 at 9:04 pm #

    Two things:
    One prego means ‘thank you’ in Italian. Hope that nugget makes you hate the word preggo a little less.

    Two, it’s polite and always appreciated to offer anyone your seat on the subway. I waddled my 9-month pregnant self to work on the subway, most of the time I was offered a seat. Sometimes I declined but sometimes I was so physically and mentally exhausted the possibility of some sort of altercation with someone who did not want to give up their seat made me not want to ask, particularly in a crowded subway car where the majority had headphones in. We should all be looking to help one another and speak up for those who need help speaking up for themselves.

    Glad to hear you had a fantastic pregnancy. Not everyone does. There is no prIze for trying to “tough it out” on a subway car. When the reality is there might just be a penalty if you do.

  2. Jen December 7, 2016 at 8:38 pm #

    Wow. Good for you.

    But, really, you spent time and space writing about how you didn’t need anything while you were pregnant?

    This is what you use this space for?

    This blog is fairly light on substance as it is but this has to be one of the worst and useless and pointless posts ever.

    • Boston Moms Blog
      Boston Moms Blog December 7, 2016 at 8:42 pm #

      Thank you for your comment. What kinds of posts would you like to see?

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