At two years postpartum, I still don’t feel quite like myself. I carry extra baby weight, but it isn’t physical. It’s the weight of motherhood.
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Saying “Yes, please” and “No, thank you” can ease our burdens. If we do, we make better mothers, better partners, better friends, and better selves.
You’ve got to know when to hold ’em, Know when to fold ’em, Know when to walk away, Know when to run. You never count your money When you’re sittin’ at the table. There’ll be time enough for countin’ When the dealing’s done. I heard this song on the radio the other day, and as […]
As I settled down on the couch with my husband, our kids sleeping peacefully upstairs, all of us worn out from another amazing weekend of family time and house projects, the intrusive thoughts began to flood in. It happens to me when things get quiet. Although my body is bone-tired, my brain, exhausted from a […]
A few weeks ago I asked my daughter what kind of theme she wanted for her fifth birthday party. Her response? “Smurfs.” The next week I asked her what she wanted to be for Halloween: “A Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle.” Soon after, we received an invitation for a Super Mario Bros. birthday party. Am I […]
I didn’t realize mom guilt was a thing until I was a new mom. I began to hear other moms talk about it — a LOT. I have friends who say they feel guilty that their kids are picky eaters, that one child needs them more, that they work or they stay home, that they don’t […]
I’ll never forget it. My dad stood leaning against the doorway of my childhood bedroom the day after our first married-Christmas and gave me and my husband the news. My grandmother was sick, and it might be a big deal. Right then, my life flashed before my eyes. My grandparents are hugely important to me […]
If there’s anything the last year has taught us, it’s that the fight for justice — and, more specifically, teaching our children what’s right — lies in our hands. But how can we do this? Making the world a better place requires us all to have empathy, and that must be fostered early in life. […]
So, you’re ready to grow your family and can’t wait to welcome another new bundle of joy! But is your first child ready? Ha — that was a trick question. Because the answer is almost definitely NO! Your firstborn is about to have a seismic (but amazing) shift right alongside yours. So here are some […]
Six years ago we brought our oldest son home from the hospital. Hours later, I sat in my living room, trying to help him latch. My cat plopped down in front of me and started lazily licking herself. She paused to observe my unusual struggle. I stared back at her, realizing that if she had […]
This is my second summer with my baby girl, who is now a curiosity-charged, energetic toddler. Watching her run around, explore, and test boundaries — and seeing her joy as she learns new things — has me thinking about how much she has grown, and how much I have grown with her. A few nights […]
It’s that time of year again, when I look up from a pile of end-of-school-year activities and summer camp forms and realize it’s almost Father’s Day. Lucky for me (and my husband), we live in Somerville, which is really a dream place to treat the hipster dad in your life. From artisanal shaving soap made […]
A group of moms hurried in to preschool pickup, many of us lugging younger siblings, scaling the stairs to the classroom with careful hurry. One mother turned toward the group and said, “I can’t believe there’s only one more month left in the school year. I’m dreading having the kids home all summer.” Other moms […]
I met my midwife on the day I was born. Nancy Wainer was my mother’s own labor assistant. She was right there at Brigham and Women’s Hospital, supporting my parents as they welcomed me into the world via a VBAC delivery. Nancy herself coined the term “VBAC” — vaginal birth after Cesarean, a phrase that […]
“Mama, you be the baby and I’ll be the mama.” “Can I watch something, Mama?” “Mama, will you read to me?” “I’m hungry. Can I have a snack?” When you are the mom of a young child, the same soundtrack of questions plays on repeat. When you’re a stay-at-home mom, it’s a never-ending loop. For […]